OMG, I’M HOSTING A COACHING EVENT!
This is so scary. And awesome. And scary.
I’m so excited to share that the first ever YES! coaching event is HAPPENING!
It took a lot to get here… so let me backtrack.
About two years ago, I had a life changing realization. I always been really tough on myself– putting myself down, following the negative voice in my head, doubting my abilities. For years, I sought to boost my self-worth by measuring myself based on how many exciting plans I had in the future, how many friends I had, how skinny I could be, or how well I could do at work. I thought that this was just par for the course for Type A perfectionists. I thought there would always be something ‘wrong’ with me.
I tried lots of different things to ‘fix’ myself: therapy, nutrition counseling, medication, meditation, devouring books. And nothing really stuck in a meaningful way until I started working with my first life coach. If you’re anything like I was then, you’re thinking to yourself “what the $#%^ is life coaching?”
Which is why I’m writing today. Coaching changed my life in the most positive of ways, and it was very unexpected. I had no idea what coaching was or how to take part in it. I’m lucky to have had a soul-seeking bestie introduce me to my first coach, Caroline. And I’m incredibly lucky to have parents who helped me to pay for the ‘pricey for a twenty-something in NYC’ sessions. Today, I’m a person who truly loves and believes in herself, who supports herself fully. I don’t believe I’d have made such major shifts without coaching.
It’s my mission to help change the paradigm about coaching: to make it more known, accessible, and affordable for anyone looking to up their game in life. I’m enrolled in a coaching training program called Mentor Masterclass, led by the wonderful Jeannine Yoder. My ultimate vision is to create a coaching model where people like you and I can drop in, without paying hundreds of dollars, and leave changed. And I’m calling it YES!.
My current coach and business cheerleader Alex Kip (he’s also co-host of one of my favorite Podcasts!) has agreed to help me as we start to test what a drop in version of coaching could look like. So for our first event, Alex will be doing the coaching and believe me, it will be magical. He’s a master of Tony Robbins-ian coaching, aka he will totally change the way you think. Consider this event a Beta Test, except one that will be super amazing and leave you feeling more in touch with yourself and ready to take on what it is you want out of life.The first ever YES! coaching collective is happening!
Thursday, September 10th at 8p
The Caledonia (17th and 10th in Chelsea, NYC) (thanks Joe!)
Group coaching by Alex, happiness, and jams!
RSVP and more details can be found on our site, and please feel free to email me if you have questions!
It is with an open heart that I share this with you, and hope that you’ll appreciate my spamming of your inbox. If my story resonates with you and you want to learn more, by all means, let’s chat! I would love it. And if you’re in NYC, I’d love to have you there. I believe it will be a really special evening, and the start of something awesome.
In the words of that one wrestler…. YES! YES! YES!
p.s. I’m considering doing some free one-on-one intro coaching sessions. If you’re interested, shoot me an email!
p.p.s. Need a promo code for our event? Lemme know!
If you ever have the opportunity to see Gabby Bernstein speak in person, do it.
Tonight, I attended Gabby’s Miracles Now Workshop in the beautiful Deepak Chopra space at ABC Carpet and Home. Setting aside the sensory overload that is ABC Carpet and Home (the most beautiful store I’ve seen- it’s a grown-up and crazy chic Anthropologie), the workshop was truly a magical experience.
Gabby was different in person than I imagined – better. I wasn’t really sure what to expect. I’ve read a few of her books, and while they’re amazing, I’ve found she can come off as either too high priestess or too LA trendster. Gabby is neither and both at once- she pulls off a flawless mix of cool, relatable, and deeply wise. She’s the best friend you’ve always wanted and the guru you’d quote religiously. She is, in a word, perfection.
One of the things that impressed me most about Gabby was her warmth and rapport. She spent a good portion of the workshop doing Q&A; her ability to connect to each and every woman on a real one-on-one, playful way was a sight to behold. By the end, the room felt like a group of girlfriends at a sleepover sharing our deepest fears, with Momma Gab to wrap us in a warm embrace and share Oprah parables in the form of quotes from A Course in Miracles. Gabby radiates love in every direction when she is on the stage, and her tribe feels it.
The rest of the workshop was a mix of her favorite tools from A Course in Miracles and a few different meditations. I loved the first meditation to Michael the archangel, who is incidentally one of my favorite angels in Catholicism- I’m happy to carry him forward on my new spiritual path. The closing meditation was powerful and cool, but the position was rough- holding your arms up at a 60 degree angle for minutes on end means I was spending a lot more time thinking about how much pain I was in than imagining a fire in my heart. But I’d gladly give it a go again.
My favorite nuggets of knowledge from Gabby were the most obvious- the truths we’ve heard told time and time again, the main principles of A Course and of all of Gabby’s books. The things that are so simple, they’re easy to leave behind in your quest for self-actualization. I think she said it best when she spoke about choosing to believe in Miracles now. Not when you’ve cleared out every bad memory and feeling and limiting belief. Now. It’s so easy to forget that you have the power today, in this moment, when you’re constantly working on yourself with new tools. There is no need to wait. You do not need to be perfect. You simply need to surrender to love.
A few of my favorite one-liners:
“I am responsible for what I see.”
“I am willing to see this with love.”
“Intentions grow when they are shared.”
“Recognize the other person is you- what you are seeing is your own light or darkness being reflected back to you.”
“If you’re feeling helpless, help someone.”
“Let the muscles rest so they can form.”
“Stop looking for your purpose– your purpose will find you.”
And for me, the most powerful of all:
Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.
How incredible an outlook on life: to choose to feel certain that the outcome is coming to you and to be free to live your life as is, knowing it will come to you. This is certainly a lesson to apply to life in so many ways- for me, when it comes to dating and wanting to find love or to wanting to start my own business, for example. Believe it is yours, release, and be free.
p.s. I bought the Miracles Now card deck and I am in love. It’s gorgeous!
So you’re feeling self conscious about how you look in that YouTube video you had to do for work? Me too. Never fear, here is a sure-fire way to break that pattern and laugh. A lot.
Just turn on YouTube Closed Captioning.
Those guys are not great at their jobs. See below:
This probably also works while watching other people’s YouTube videos if you need a good laugh.
I’m back from Coachella and back to blogging! So, look forward to quite a bit more about my experience this year (spoiler: it was awesome) and the music I loved.
One of my favorite acts this year was Marina and the Diamonds. Miss Diamandis released her sophomore album FROOT in March, and it might be one of my favorites on the entire year. The album spans the gamit of fun, poppy dance tunes (the album’s title track, Blue) to haunting, beautiful, soulful ballads (Forget, I’m a Ruin). But my favorite track on the album is the simply brilliant, aptly titled “Happy.”
With Happy, Marina has created a self-love anthem, spreading an important message about finding happiness within in a beautifully resonant way. Every time I listen to the song, I feel like Marina is looking directly into my soul and projecting some of the deepest learnings of my life. She taps into what makes an amazing song: it touches an insight, it strikes a chord, it puts you in touch with feelings you may not even know you have.
I found what I’d been looking for in myself
Found a life worth living for someone else
Never thought that I could be, I could be
Check out the album on spotify.
Desires aren’t just normal, they’re a healthy part of human existence. They help us move forward to where we want to go. They connect us to who we are, to who we are meant to be and to our greatest purpose in life. Desires = our ultimate destiny. They enforce big, important shifts.
The problem with dreams and desires is that they’re often accompanied by fear. We’re afraid that we won’t be good enough to achieve our dreams. We don’t know where to begin. We’re afraid that if we fail, we’ll be ridiculed. We’re scared that our desires may change over time.
And so, we keep them to ourselves.
We lock our dreams in our heads and hearts. We tell ourselves to aim lower. We silence our creativity.
But holding back on your dreams is one of the worst things that you can do in this life. Dreams don’t go away… they grow into regret.
I recently took a leap of faith. I have a dream to one day start a business that will bring women and girls on the journey to self love that I myself completed. I want to make this more accessible, acceptable, and sought-out. And I’ve started verbalizing this dream as much as I possibly can.
Here’s why I think that EVERYONE should stop what they’re doing and start shouting out their dreams RIGHT NOW.
1. The more you share you dream, the more likely it is to come true.
Manifestation 101- if you put it out in the universe, the universe works with you to make it happen. So don’t stop sharing what you want. Keep putting it out there, share your passion. The more energy and emphasis, the better. The world WANTS you to achieve your desires, guys! Let it work for you.
2. The amount of people who will rally to help you achieve your dream will astound you.
A few weeks ago I made the decision to invest in Mentor Masterclass as a first step to making my dream a reality. When I was first considering the class, it felt so “alternative” to me, nothing like the straight and narrow college to career path that I had taken my entire life. I was worried that I would be rejected for wanting to pursue this, that my family and friends would think I was off my rocker. I have been amazed that this couldn’t be further from the truth. Since I decided I wanted to take the class, I’ve found the most amazing of support from family, friends and acquaintances. I’ve had ex boyfriends, co-workers and Facebook friends volunteer to help or just share support. And most amazingly, my parents reacted in the exact opposite way I thought they would. They didn’t look at me like I was nuts, they didn’t try to talk me out of staying on the rational path. They supported me wholeheartedly. They smiled wide at the idea and they told me to go for it. They’re holding my hand through the process. The only person who thought that I was being crazy for wanting to do this was me. Support is all around.
3. More and more opportunities that will move you forward will arise.
Like attracts like. So, the more you make your desire into something tangible, a goal that you’re actually working towards, the more the path to achieving that desire will unfold. Tell one friend about your dream and bam! she knows of a class to help. Tell another and wam! he knows the perfect person to network with. And, verbalizing your desires helps to crystalize the resources that you’ll need to make it happen. The more you work through this, the more the path will naturally come to you.
4. You’ll realize you’ve had the power all along.
Nothing hurts us more than keeping our desires to ourselves. We hold back our creative voice, we tell ourselves that we’re not good enough to do what we truly want, we validate that negative voice in our heads that’s held us back for so long. In truth, the only person who can make your dreams happen is YOU. And 99% of that struggle is mental. If you believe you can do it, you will. This applies to absolutely everything in life. The sooner that you can learn to believe in yourself no matter what, no matter how big the dream, the sooner you will blossom into the life of your dreams.
5. You’ll master one of the most valuable life skills: how to sit in vulnerability.
Vulnerability. For many of us, we go to great lengths to avoid it. But as Brene Brown (one of my favorite human beings) teaches, vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change. Vulnerability brings our true selves into the open. And when we allow ourselves to be seen deeply, wholeheartedly, we call in love and joy. By showing yourself (all of yourself!) as you are, you’re inspiring meaningful change in your life.
What is one of your biggest dreams for your life? Tell me in the comments below and let the magic begin!
Think about your favorite night out in a city you were visiting for the first time. For me, the excitement of traveling always elevates the experience- the new musical influences, meeting people who are interesting and like-minded in their wanderlust, and of course, doing something new.
Now imagine you could have that experience in NYC, in winter.
This Friday (Jan 23rd), #Globewanders is bringing the experience of music and travel together for a night of fun at the Hudson Hotel in NYC. The event is designed to bring together innovators and appreciators of world travel + world dance music + world culture to boogie to global dance beats and tropical bass spun by DJ Geko Jones of the wildly popular Que Bajo?! parties in NYC. Also on the bill: dance collective Cadny.org, and some of their capoeira dancers will be out and about on the dance floor to keep the party moving.
In other words, your Friday night is officially exotic. Which is tough to come by in January.
To sum up:
NYC’s Hudson Hotel Half & Half Arcade & Dance hall
7:30pm to 11pm, 21+ only
Free with RSVP subject to venue capacity.
For more information and to rsvp, visit www.globewanders.com.
P.S. The event has also teamed up with 20 innovative co-sponsors in travel and music including Dubspot, Mi Casa Holiday, #NMDN Alternative travel conference, Turntable Lab, Journy, Sparkplug, NY MusicTech, Travel 2.0, Travel Massive NYC, and Fantrotter.
See you there!
I’m gonna get real about my relationship with food for a minute. Today, food and I are lovers and friends. But it wasn’t always this way.
In college, I really struggled with eating. This manifested itself in an incredibly restrictive diet, ocd amounts of exercise, and a short but real bout with bulimia. Which was really, really not okay. And hard to get over. But with lots of work and honesty and resources, I got through it. I realized I had a problem, and that I didn’t want to feel uncomfortable and anxious and gross and unhappy with my body all the time. I wanted to change, I went on a journey, and eventually I did. It all came down to not feeling good about myself, and wanting to control my personal perceptions of “good enough” by being the skinniest person in the room or at least feeling “in control” of my weight. Not quite the best way to define your self worth (UNDERSTATEMENT).
Seven years later, I’m so, so grateful to be in a much healthier and more balanced place in my life. I never thought I’d say this, but I rarely struggle with eating fears anymore, though body image issues still creep every once in a while.
I feel better than I ever have in my own skin, I exercise in moderation, and I eat basically whatever I want (though I try to be pretty healthy most of the time).
Which leads me to today’s post on incorporating more nourishing foods into my diet.
How are these things connected?
In college, I was incredibly restrictive when it came to food. I was all about low fat, low calorie. I started using only skim milk, I thought lean cuisines and diet coke were the jam, and I would inhale cereal and baked lays or 100 calorie packs of shitty snacks like it was my job. If it was low-cal, it was a-ok. I had brain-washed myself in a big way.
I knew that what I was eating was pretty empty food, but at the time I thought that it was what I was supposed to be doing. My friends were eating similarly, low cal/no cal was still all the rage, and I didn’t really care as much about my health as I cared about being thin. The result was a really terrible way to live.
Over the following years, I basically had to let go of my food obsession and learn to allow myself the freedom to make choices and eat real food again. I had to ward off of all restrictions. I worked with a nutritionist to learn which foods were healthy and nourishing and which weren’t, but I found that what worked for me at the time was not overly obsessing about any one thing. I had to learn to let go of food habits and rituals and crazy planning and dieting. And I did it.
The only thing that continued to nag at me was that as a result, I became afraid of making any major changes to my diet. I was afraid to do anything that could translate itself in restriction, comparison, and ultimately spiral back into fear.
This year I’ve been working really hard on body image, thanks to some amazing guidance and tools provided by Caroline, and I feel the strongest I ever have. Not only that, I have started to really crave nourishing foods and to crave kicking chemicals, etc. I’ve started to make some small, healthy tweaks to my diet that are not limiting, but rather things to add in or swap in when I feel like it. I’m in no way restricting, and still letting myself eat whatever I feel like.
Instead, I really feel like I’m listening to my body and what it wants to thrive.
Here are a few of the things I’m working on incorporating or eliminating:
- Cutting out caffeine– Caffeine was a really tough one for me. For years I’ve had a HUGE coffee or two in the morning at work, and felt like I couldn’t get to lunch without it. Then, I’d have one or two diet cokes. Now, I have a tea in the morning, sometimes with a small bit of caffeine, and no more diet cokes. It was super tough at first, but I feel so much less anxiety and more alive. It feels great to shake that dependence.
Adding in more greens– whether through adding in spinach when I’m making dinner or throwing some kale into a smoothie, I’m trying to get in as many new greens as possible.
- Finding more nourishing breakfasts- I’m a fan of cereal, but it may be the least nutritious meal out there. I wanted to find an option that actually made me feel like I was fueling my body. Lately I’ve been turning to gluten-free oatmeal with chia seeds, cinnamon, and some fruit. Today, I made my first mason jar steel cut oats.
- Swapping in brown rice or quinoa pasta- Italian cooking is huge in my family and I’m no exception. I’ve been doing whole grain pasta for a while, but recently was turned on to the idea of cutting out unnecessary gluten by trying alternative pasta types. Turns out, they’re just as good! And they make me feel better.
- Whole Milk- this is a really tough one for me as it’s been ingrained in my mind that skim milk is the only way to go if you want to be fit. But, since I’ve been eating healthier breakfasts, I have been using less milk and trying to just put a bit of whole milk in to cut down on hormones and processing. So far, so good.
For me, it’s all about small, simple changes and moderation. I’ll still have plenty of days where I eat regular pasta, or have cereal for breakfast because I feel like it. But I feel great knowing the foods that I’m choosing are contributing to my well being in a big way.
And it feels amazing to have kicked such a big food fear in my life.
P.S. it’s tough for me to talk about my past eating disorder, but it’s also incredibly important to me to be honest, vulnerable and to own my story. If you or someone you know is looking for help, here are a few incredible resources that helped me:
In a strange twist of events, the Coachella gods dropped the 2015 line-up on us today.
That means no time for anxious line-up speculation. It also means that we now have a very real line-up to lust over for the next 3 1/2 months.
Either way, I’m in love with the choices Coachella made this year. It might be my favorite line-up yet.
So as we prepare for the love/hate moments that make up this annual tradition, let’s explore some of the highlights after the jump: Continue reading
All of my life I’ve been fortunate to be served delicious, home cooked italian food almost every time we have a family meal. Most of our “recipes” have been passed from generation to generation for so long that the recipes … Continue reading
One thing I’ve come to learn in all of my soul searching over the past year or so is that comparison to others is a quick way to ruin your own life. For me, I’ve struggled most with comparison when it comes to my appearance.
Our culture is the most connected and consumptive of its kind, and because of this, we’re constantly inundated with visuals of society’s idea of the perfect woman. And, she feels more accessible than ever thanks mostly to social media. We’ve created a very narrow box for what beauty can mean in our society, and most of us don’t quite fit the bill. There is nothing wrong with this type of beauty, however there is everything wrong with rejecting other types of beauty in favor of this particular mold. It breeds a comparison culture, and a culture of self-hatred and shame. We spend hours upon hours each day working to achieve an ideal that we may never reach, berating what makes us different, and putting ourselves down. At least, I know that I have, and sometimes still do.
I’m ready to break free of the need to compare myself to others. I’m ready to kick any and all body image garbage to the curb.
Caroline suggested that I take some time to re-write what I’ve told myself for years is beautiful, mostly influenced by my ideas of what society thinks is beauty. So, I’m writing a new ‘manifesto’ for what beauty really means to me.
Here we go.
The Blissed-Up Beauty Manifesto
Beauty is not just a symmetrical face, free of lines and wrinkles, an unobtrusive nose, a pinned back pair of ears, a slightly defined but not too defined chin, and eyes that are perfectly shaped with lashes that flap like fans.
It is a contagious smile, an inner light that shines out for others to see in the glimmer of an eye. It’s creases and laugh lines and sun burn, the things that we gain from the experiences we have. It’s the differences that make us who we are: our grandmother’s noses, our father’s lips, our mother’s cheek bones.
Beauty is not just a perfectly sculpted body, all jagged and angles and bones, with long legs and a size zero waist, a flat stomach, and just enough muscle definition without appearing bulky.
It’s a body that shows up with confidence, wherever it goes. It’s a softness and warmth, smooth lines rather than angular, inviting to the touch. The kind of softness that implies youth even when youth is gone. It’s well cared for and loved. Beauty is a body that is miraculous and strong- it does things both great and small to propel us forward in life, to help us to fulfill our greatest desires and to help others, too. It is the fact that our bodies are ever adapting and changing to meet our needs, our greatest champion and supporter. That our body works as life’s vehicle for our dreams and our destiny.
Beauty is a feeling. It’s an aura of self-love, a look directly into the eye. It’s a proud display of the inner soul and the outer being, a welcoming gesture, an inviting posture. It’s a glow that you can feel, an energy that pulls you in. It’s kindness, it’s joy, it’s connection. It’s in our propensity to show up and honor ourselves and those around us.
Beauty is in our uniqueness, the little things that one day will be irreplaceable to someone else but for today are yours and yours alone.
Beauty exists in all of us, and once we learn to celebrate what’s beautiful about ourselves instead of criticizing what we think needs to change, that beauty will radiate for all to see.